How to find your spiritual path

Spiritual path

Find your spiritual path and purpose by learning to sit in silence. It develops your intuition and awareness.

If you live your life in a state of constant busy-ness, life is flying by without much meaning and you figure there must be more to life, I write this post for you.

Allow me to turn the clock back about 15 years ago, and explain that’s exactly where I was in my life.  Life was just busy and although I was doing fine, I did not feel passion for life like I envied in some people I observed.  Now that I’m able to look back to 15 years ago and clearly reflect on what I was feeling, here are the kinds of thoughts I had:

How could I find my path?  Is it a spiritual path I am seeking?  How would I even go about finding a spiritual path? How can I find things I’m passionate about and feel more alive?

For me, I was interested in finding a spiritual path, not necessarily a religious path, but to feel purposeful and connected to something bigger than myself.

I think this subject would be best served by writing a book, any maybe one day I will do that, but for now I offer the benefit of hindsight to you in this short post.

I’m deeply curious about all sorts of spiritual practices, and expect to be a constant life-long learner in this regard.  It doesn’t mean I will believe or follow all these practices, but it’s good to be open, curious and non-judgmental.  The reason I make this point is this:

Given all the various practices I have explored over the past 15 years, the underlying foundation to creating my path in life has been my meditation practice.

The benefits of meditation are many, but in the context of this discussion, meditation allows you to find stillness and to observe your thoughts.  As you cultivate the practice of observing your mind without judgment, you develop the ability to identify less with your thoughts and recognize them as just thoughts.  As such, your intuition develops, and you become more conscious.  You become more able to experience your life differently – even with the same busy-ness in your life, you don’t feel as busy or stressed, instead, you feel more aware and conscious of your life.

With this development of new way of being, you start to find a path that feels fulfilling and right.  You start to feel your spiritual path.  Now, you may or may not feel like calling it a spiritual path, but that doesn’t matter.  What matters is that you awaken to life, and live life with more intention.  This all leads to a happier life.

(With the above few paragraphs, I just felt that I wrote a summary of the last 15 years of my life in this one post.  Wow.)

path through forestEspecially since 2011, my path has become increasingly clear.  A snapshot of who I am now is reflected in my website:

The 2 books that I read early in my journey that helped open my eyes are:

I am deeply grateful for all the experiences I have had, and am excited about my life today.

Wishing all of you peace, love and light in your journey.

~Wendy Quan of The Calm Monkey.

LOL, is this what spirituality looks like?

What New Age Girls say

What New Age Girls say

A facebook friend shared this video, and OMG, it’s SO funny.  Funny because if you consider yourself spiritual and have been on your ‘path’ for awhile, you will definitely have heard these phrases before  or even see yourself in this.

Apologies for the language in the title, but this is called “Shit New Age Girls Say”.  For those offended by the title, don’t worry, the video itself doesn’t have such language.

It’s a ‘must watch’!   Play ‘Shit New Age Girls Say’ on YouTube

Part 5 – When you don’t have a partner on your spiritual journey

Garden of the Gods mountain range

Garden of the Gods mountain range in Colorado Springs. A sacred place full of energy.

This is Part 5 in the series ‘Is your partner with you on your spiritual journey?’.  This post: How about when you don’t have a partner?

This topic is a simpler one.  When you are in the situation of not having a partner, and want to pursue your spiritual growth, what do you do?

* * * Go for it! * * *  That’s what you do!

There are so many ways to grow. Here are some ideas:

  • Try out different community groups, meetup groups and events – whether it’s for meditation, listening to a speaker or attending a workshop, there are so many activities out there in the world to try. The key is to keep an open mind, go with no expectations or pre-judgments and allow yourself to explore, learn and be opened.
  • Do not make a generalization based on one event. Sometimes a particular event may not be right for you, maybe you interact with people that you don’t like,  but do not let this close your mind. For instance, not all meditation courses or sitting groups are the same. If you go to one that makes you feel uncomfortable, try another one.
  • Seek out like-minded people. Broach conversations with people to discover what similar interests and beliefs they may share with you. Having a coffee or talking a walk with like-minded people is invigorating. You will find the conversation can go on for hours.

When I was younger, I did not have the benefit of understanding how to seek out like-minded people or how to go about expanding my spiritual interests.   Not only didn’t I understand how to go about this, I also did not have the self-awareness to realize this was an area of interest for me. But I think it was life’s hard knocks and maturing that gave me the insight to realize what I wanted to explore.

If you are seeking to find a partner, what a great opportunity to get out there to interact with like-minded people; maybe you will find someone who wants company on their spiritual path too.

This concludes the 5 part series about spirituality and partnerships.  I hope you enjoyed reading them.


Part 1 – Is your partner with you on your spiritual journey?

At the sacred 'Garden of the Gods'I’d like to discuss a really important and intriguing subject:  Is your partner with you on your spiritual journey?

As this is a very big and meaningful topic, I will break this down into a 5 part series, and I invite you to join in on this conversation by adding your comments.

Spiritual growth is such a deeply personal decision and experience. Every person walks a unique path.  I imagine that most of you who read my blog are in some way already on your spiritual path.  You might be well on your way, or you might just be peeking through a door at the path that intrigues you, or you are not yet sure what it is or what to do about it.

In one of my past serious relationships, I felt a deep but suppressed interest in spirituality, and I didn’t even really know what to call it at the time. I wanted to discuss my curiosity with my partner but based on what I knew about him, I suspected that he would just raise an eyebrow and wonder if I was running a high fever.

In my current relationship, my partner started out years ago rather indifferent and skeptical, but going through my cancer journey last year really opened his eyes to the possibility and benefits of joining me on my spiritual journey.

Personally, I feel that if your partner intentionally decides to grow with you spiritually, it enriches and accelerates your growth, and deepens your relationship.  After all, partnerships do need long term visions in order to sustain and be fulfilling.

How did I broach the subject in my serious relationships? Here are some ways I did:

  • I started off with a discussion on whether or not we each believed in reincarnation.  Whether you believe in reincarnation or not isn’t the point here, I’m just pointing out this is how I started opened up a spiritual-type conversation.
  • When we experienced a death of a friend or loved one, or heard that someone was very ill, we would remember how short life really is.  This was a window of opportunity to talk about what we thought our life’s purpose might be.

So have you truly talked specifically to your partner about exploring your spiritual growth together, or have you just talked about various topics here and there, but not made the big jump in raising the question of deciding to journey together?

  • Have you talked about what it means to grow spiritually together?
  • What life means to you?
  • Living life with self-awareness, intention and meaning?
  • What it means to your relationship to journey together or separately?

I invite you to share how you have broached this subject with your partner, or how you have not as yet (current or past partners).  As this can be a very tricky subject, I would love to hear about your experiences, or you can describe the challenges you are currently having.

Please click the ‘Comment’ link below to join in on this conversation!