Beginner meditators often wonder if they are ‘doing meditation right’. My answer is that when you approach meditation without expectations, without trying too hard, and with an acceptance of whatever you experience, then you are probably doing it right.
Meditation is about concentrating on the focus of your chosen meditation technique, such as paying attention to your breath. It is not about blanking out your mind and expecting a blissful experience.
When you meditate with a sense of ease, and allow whatever experiences arise, you will benefit from meditation.
During meditation, you will have all kinds of experiences – some you will deem successful, and some you may not particularly enjoy. The best way to regard meditation is to let go of expectations or wanting your meditation to go a certain way. It’s important to enter into each meditation with a beginner’s mind, a fresh perspective, without expecting anything in particular to happen.
Over time, how will you know if you’re doing it right? Generally, most people will notice that their state of being has shifted – they may be happier, more peaceful, calmer, less stressed, think more clearly, able to better focus, or have an overall better appreciation for their lives. I am wonderfully amazed at the extent that meditation helps reduce anxiety and depression. Many of my students have reported being able to reduce or eliminate their medications.
If you have any questions about meditation, I would welcome hearing from you.
Have a wonderful day,
~Wendy Quan of The Calm Monkey.