I had another wonderful conversation today with a friend about how we feel anxiety sometimes. Intellectually, we know that anxiety is fear about the future, and that the fear isn’t real. Anxiety is just our worries about something that may happen. But even with this intellectual and logical thinking, it’s still hard to reduce such anxiety.
Then sometimes when we’re catching ourselves feeling anxious, we feel guilty and foolish because we know that we should just change our thinking and smarten up!
Her anxiety is often about small things, such as: “I’ve mailed in this bill payment and I fear it will get lost in the mail” or “What if I forgot to lock the house door?” Even though these are relatively small things, it interferes with her daily enjoyment of life. I’ve asked her to look into Cognitive Behavior Therapy, which she is thankfully exploring.
I’m certainly nowhere near perfect, but have found ways to reduce anxiety successfully sometimes. It seemed to help her, so I thought I’d share these with you too.
- Is your mind manufacturing stories? Recognize when your anxiety are ‘thoughts’ and are not reality. Be clear on what the facts are, instead of letting your mind create stories.
- Trust that if something does go wrong, you can handle it! (You really can.)
- Don’t miss today. Realize that by worrying, you are taking away from your life’s experience of the present moment. Don’t let life fly by you. Learn mindfulness to help bring yourself into the present moment, especially when you have anxious moments.
By practicing these techniques over time, you can get relief from anxiety, plus, you’ll start to enjoy life more!