You are not the only one with problems

put on a happy face

We all do it sometimes. Putting on a happy face.

If you ever think that most people ‘have it together’ and you don’t, think again.

A typical day for me usually involves helping people with their personal issues, be it anxiety, stress, relationship issues, feeling stuck, health scares, uncertainty about their future, etc.   I must confess that I have been surprised numerous times when someone whom I thought had a perfect life comes to me for a confidential talk, and I see the public persona come down and their real life presented to me.

In helping so many people over the years, it’s become very clear that everyone has issues in their lives. Even those people who appear to be very ‘together’ – perhaps people see them as good-looking, happy, confident, having a beautiful home, great partner, money and a fun social life – often underneath all of that are personal problems that no one knows about, at least to some extent.  Or maybe they are doing great for awhile but then something happens to knock them off track.

I have come to realize that we are all human, meaning we are all having the human experience.  There is no understanding happy without ever being sad, no love without hate.  We move in and out of phases in our lives, and we need to be grateful when we have special people in our lives who come on the journey with us.

I hope this gives you some perspective – that you are not the only one with issues to work out in your life and that you’re missing the secret to being happy.

This coming weekend is Thanksgiving weekend for us here in Canada.  I am giving thanks for all the gifts people have given to me – entrusting me with their deepest thoughts and opening their hearts.

Happy Canadian Thanksgiving everyone,


6 thoughts on “You are not the only one with problems

  1. Oh once again you don’t disappoint. We all have our masks that we were, are armour or what ever you want to call it, but once we find those really amazing people in our lives that except us without all that and can reveal our authentic selves then the clarity happens. I am grateful for the few I feel comfortable enough to share that with. Happy Thanksgiving to you and the wonderful friendship we share.

    • Happy Thanksgiving Grasshopper! Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
      We both have a tremendous amount to be thankful for. I am thankful for our friendship and your continued support for me.

  2. Another aspect of this is that often it is through suffering (experiences like addiction, depression, homelessness, the death of loved ones or catastrophic loss) that spiritual growth, empathy, compassion, acceptance, depth of character and the weakening of the ego can arise.

    • Ah Ken, very true. Suffering can allow us to grow. The trick is learning from our experiences. Without the learning, we just feel sorry for ourselves.
      Thank you for the insight,

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