Finding happiness by dropping your form

Uncovering your inner happiness

Uncovering your inner happiness

I know you have probably heard that money doesn’t buy happiness.  But let’s go beyond that now . . . how can you find happiness in this busy, stressful world?

I’ve learned something quite profound that’s helped me become a happier person. I’ll share this with you.

Do you agree that as we live our lives, more and more stuff gets layered onto our state of being?  All those times you’ve been burned by friends and co-workers, how your parents criticized you, how that other driver yelled at you because you were in his way?  All of these experiences affect you. I think you would agree that you have created layers of defense around you over time.

All these layers protecting you develop into your current state of being – how you behave, how you think and feel, and how happy you are.

Imagine these layers of self-protection as your ‘form’ – the persona you choose to portray to the world.  Now, what if you drop this form for a moment?  Scarey thought, isn’t it?  Just the thought of dropping your form likely makes you feel exposed and vulnerable.

Why would you want to drop your form?  With practice, over time, dropping your form allows you uncover your true state of being, the unadulterated state of pureness that you were born with before life’s experiences got in the way.  It allows you to feel like your true self.

Let’s be clear. Dropping your form is not easy and it takes practice.  It also does not mean that you necessarily live in a constant state of bliss either.

How do you drop your form?  It can be done in meditation.  Even if you are not an experienced meditator, you can still sit quietly and practice this.

Here’s how:

  1. Take time to sit or lie down quietly.  Give yourself ample time to get into a relaxed state. This might be anywhere from 5 – 20 minutes.
  2. Once in a very relaxed state, imagine dropping your form.  You may have your own way of doing this.  Try imagining that all those layers of life’s experiences, perceptions, attitudes, judgments, etc, start to melt and slowly drop down from your body into the ground below you.  As your form slowly dissolves, allow yourself to feel safe in doing this. Allow yourself to feel your persona, your ego, dropping off of you.
  3. Allow your true, unadulterated, pure self to now expose. You may even allow your pure self to start glowing or feel your vibration of energy as it is exposed.  Take the time to feel what this feels like.  Don’t be scared.  Just allow.  Do not doubt if you are doing this right.  If you feel different, perhaps vulnerable, you are doing it right.

During this moment of meditation or quiet time, you may experience the feeling of happiness.  The more you practice dropping your form, the more you will feel the innate happiness within you being expressed.

The more you practice doing this in meditation, you will practice understanding the feeling of what your inner happiness feels like.  It is unlikely, however, to expect that this feeling will stay with you all throughout the day.  But the more you practice this, the easier it will become, and now I am able to call this feeling up during the day without sitting in meditation.

Please give this a try.  It’s different and it works for me.

Wishing that your happiness is able to shine from within you,

~Wendy

11 thoughts on “Finding happiness by dropping your form

  1. Reblogged this on The Calm Monkey and commented:

    I led this meditation for my sitting group this week. Many had some really moving and intriguing experiences from doing this meditation. Give it a try, while playing some soothing music.

  2. Wendy! You seems to know exactly what to post at the perfect time for me. I have been doing some reading about the benefits of opening ourselves to vulnerability. Particularly one by Brené Brown called “Daring Greatly”. Thanks so much for a place to begin.

    • Hello ESR, isn’t it wonderful when something comes along just at the right moment for us. The even more wonderful thing is when we actually recognize it and know to follow it. Thank you for taking the time to comment. I truly appreciate hearing from you.

      Have a wonderful day and all the best on your journey,
      ~Wendy

  3. Thank you for posting this! 🙂 This is exactly what I need, I just didn’t know where to start. I will practice this. You have helped so much with my challenges in life. I enjoy reading your posts. THANK YOU!

    • Hi Gina! Wow, it’s absolutely wonderful to hear from you. It sounds like you have a lot of challenges right now, so I hope this helps you. Please be patient with yourself if you don’t feel something right away. It can take practice to feel more and more like your true self again. It’s definitely a journey.
      All the best to you,
      ~Wendy

    • Wonderful Grasshopper! Thank you for commenting so I know when it helps. I could have said a lot more about it, but it’s hard to contain it to a short blog post. Just know that it takes practice and also the courage to be vulnerable. Good luck with it 🙂
      ~Wendy

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