This is one of my basic and common messages when I teach my meditation classes, because if beginner meditators can stop judging their meditation ‘performance’ they will have much better success.
“When you don’t judge, you can’t get frustrated.”
When I say it, I see faces in the audience get curious, and as they think about it, they start to understand it. The concept is so simple and extremely powerful for yourself.
If you stop judging things in your life, then how can you get frustrated with them? You can gain some inner peace simply by lightening up and finding some acceptance.
Here is an example I encountered last night:
I saw an invitation to something called a ‘Mantra Meditation evening’, which really sounded intriguing so I took the chance and decided to go, even though I wouldn’t know anyone there and no details were given. My mind was producing the experience even before I went – I imagined a lovely evening where a guide would lead the group through different chants or mantras to music, and mixed with quiet meditation time. I was looking forward to it.
As I arrived, the turnout was modest, maybe 30 people, and as the facilitator opened the evening he said something about singing. I thought to myself “Singing? Oh no! I can’t sing! He’d better not really mean that, this is supposed to be about mantras and meditation! There’s no way I’m going to sing!“.
Well, sure enough, he began to play a really unique electric guitar of some kind that I had never seen, and he started singing spiritual songs. Hardly anyone sang along. Internally, I felt my resistance shoot through the roof. While I like music, I am not a singer! And this wasn’t mantra meditation at all!
Here’s what I did….
I did not shut down. I did not get up and walk out because what they advertised was not what they delivered. I did not get angry. I distinctly made a conscious observation of my internal resistance and stopped judging the situation. I decided to let my judgment go, and opened up to experiencing the situation. Gosh, I even sang along to a few of the songs!! I surprised myself. Instead of feeling angry and resentful for 90 minutes, I made the shift quite early to not judge the evening based upon my expectations.
After it was over and I reflected on the experience, I knew the likelihood of ever attending this event again was basically nil, but I wished them well and chalked it up to having a new experience.
My example didn’t result in some happiness-generating or euphoric event, but it did neutralize what would have otherwise been a very frustrating and angry experience created in my own mind.
So, as we humans are judging and having opinions about hundreds of things per day, think about some examples of how your experience would be different if you stopped judging it. Wouldn’t you have a difference experience? How would your life be different? I think you would find some peace that may surprise you.
Thank you kindly for reading.