We all do it, and probably most of the time, whether we’d like to admit it or not. We put on a good show to the world, that’s not really our true selves.
Maybe we do this because:
- we think that’s the role in life we think we should be playing – a responsible parent who needs take care of the family, a consultant who feels they had better appear that they always know more than their clients, the ‘positive’ friend who always holds up everyone else, or the ‘good’ daughter who can’t do any wrong.
- we’re unsatisfied with our image of ourselves
- we want people to see us in a particular way
- we are hurting or unhappy, and just don’t want people to know
- we need to cover up what is bothering us or what we would rather not face.
There are countless reasons and we’re all unique, and our life situation continuously changes.
Dr. Joe Dispenza teaches “Do you know what a mid-life crisis is?” It’s when the gap between who you really are and who you are portraying to the world gets really big, and you no longer feel like yourself. My next post will discuss this.
Countless times I have heard people say ‘I need to be strong’ and ‘I’m trying to be positive’ but I can tell they are hurting inside.
There are certainly appropriate situations to put on a brave face to the world. However, have you noticed that if you put on a ‘good show’ for a long time, it’s exhausting? Keeping up the facade takes a great deal of energy. And also it pulls you farther away from your true self, which in my opinion, weakens your spirit.
Perhaps ask yourself: “How much does my outside appearance match my inside self?”
And “How does that feel?”
It’s worthwhile asking yourself these questions. When your outside more closely matches your inner self, you will feel more comfortable and at home. I know I have learned this in the last several years, and dropping the facade has made a big difference in my life. It takes self-awareness and confidence to be OK being who you really are.