Here’s how to avoid an awkward question with someone who’s been unemployed for awhile and may be still be struggling to find work. I read a good article in the Wall Street Journal and wanted to share its message with you all. This may come in handy especially over the holiday season.
As you connect with someone in this situation, it’s best not to ask “How’s the job search going?”. We all know this can be a tough time for someone seeking a job, and it’s likely they may dread being asked that question.
Instead, how about asking “So what’s keeping you busy these days?”, “How are you doing?” or something open-ended to that effect. This way, the other person can decide what they want to talk about. If they have already landed a job, they will likely tell you about it.
Perhaps you are the person who is currently seeking employment. You know how emotionally draining this can be. It’s fine to ask if someone may have a lead or idea for you, but you don’t want to alienate people by digging too deep for favors. If someone is kind enough to take any kind of action for you, like checking on job openings in their company, always show your appreciation even if the lead doesn’t pan out.
I have always believed that someone’s worth is not about what job they may do. I believe someone’s worth comes from how they impact other people’s lives. If you are having trouble finding employment, just realize it’s about timing and luck, so do things that make you feel good about yourself. It’s not a reflection of your self-worth.
If you can help open a door for someone, please do. One day you could probably use the favor too. Let’s all help each other out.