We all go through it. We all have tough times in our lives. Whether it is a short-term or chronic situation, a lifeless marriage, loneliness, grief, or a health condition that plagues us – we all need to face interacting with our daily lives and other humans around us.
We put on a facade, a brave face. We feel we need to be strong. We feel we ‘should’ think positively.
What I have learned through my divorce and recent cancer journey is an important lesson:
That we are human and we wouldn’t be human without emotions. We must allow ourselves the ups and downs, and release the energy that builds up inside of us. It’s not only OK to do this, it’s healthy to do this.
The hard reality is we all have a persona we want to project to the world. Likely that persona does not include showing when we’re sad or upset. I understand that keeping the facade is valid at times, like at work, but when you’re alone or with trusted friends or family, let it go!
So many times I have been blessed with the trust of people confiding in me about some sort of problem they have. For example, think of someone with cancer trying to put on a brave face to the world. I often tell them this if they are one to ‘be strong’:
It’s OK to be sad, it’s OK to not be strong all the time. Allow yourself to be sad, release that energy and emotion, and simply know it is temporary. Allow the ups and downs.
I’m told this has helped so many. It still helps me. I guess if I had my own mantras, this would be one: allow the ups and downs.
I hope this is helpful to you, and thank you for reading.