I think it’s valuable to ‘take stock’ of the people you choose to spend your time with. We change as we go through life, whether we realize it or not. Maybe someone made a good friend for you at one point, but no longer is really right for you. Maybe you have found a friend for life.
Have you ever spent time with someone, then thought to yourself “why am I friends with this person, anyway?” It’s actually a good question to ask yourself.
For the situations where you can choose with whom you spend time (as opposed to people you work with, for example), I think it’s important to surround yourself with people who give you a boost or a sense of meaning. An example of a ‘boost’ is someone with whom you have with a synergy with – maybe a common interest, someone who challenges your thinking, someone you can grow with, or someone who supports and understands what you’re all about. An example of a ‘sense of meaning’ may be someone you can help, and make a positive difference in their lives.
I also think it’s important to be aware of someone who might be draining your energy. These people can be ‘energy vampires’ who leave you feeling tired and who are constantly extra needy. Is there someone in your life who is toxic and bringing you down? Can you remove yourself from the situation, or at least minimize the effect on you?
Everyone is different – so you may see this differently than I, but the point I make is really about spending time, when you can, with those who contribute to YOU being YOU.
Don’t be afraid to explore new friendships. After all, everyone is changing, and sometimes people are meant to come into your life for a period of time, but perhaps not a lifetime. Choose healthy relationships.