Monkey Mind! – Stop, Cancel, Change.

Monkey Mind

Stop, Cancel and Change your Monkey Mind

Our monkey minds are busy, busy, busy.  Are you aware of your monkey mind?  These are incessant thoughts that often have little purpose other than to stress you out.  Is your monkey mind:

  • replaying thoughts from the past?  re-living a situation that happened over and over again? tormenting you?
  • jumping from one distracting thought to another, like ‘when will that phonecall come?, ‘he hasn’t replied to my email, that must mean….’, and ‘I never do well at these meetings’, ‘what will I make for dinner’, etc.
  • worrying about what will happen?  testing out scenarios of how something will play out?

There is certainly a time and place for our minds to think and plan, but once you’ve made up your mind about something, let it go.  Don’t keep replaying mindless thoughts if there is no benefit from doing so.

We have to be aware of our monkey mind FIRST before we can tame it. Taming it brings you a more peaceful mind.

Once you become aware of your monkey mind, here are some great, powerful words you can use to stop the monkey from jumping around. When you notice the monkey, say one of these words loudly in your head:

STOP! or CANCEL! – halt the thought, or cancel the thought.

CHANGE! – change the thought to something else, something more positive and fulfilling.

This usually works for me. Sometimes I have to repeat it loudly to myself a number of times so it’s louder than the monkey thoughts, but it works to bring calm and reduce stress.

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9 thoughts on “Monkey Mind! – Stop, Cancel, Change.

  1. Pingback: Taming the Monkey Mind: Day 5 « lessonsfromtheendofamarriage

  2. Reblogged this on My journey of healing from psychological abuse and commented:
    I thought I would repost this with my comment. I KNOW this will be helpful to all of us. I needed the reminder…

    “This is very true. I have learned much the same thing in my life, over the years. I look at the human mind as a muscle…it can be trained and retrained, thank god! lol! When going through a traumatic event (like myself, having dealt directly with a psychopath), Ruminating over the past can become habitual, in a sense. In my case, understanding the beast was paramount in being able to begin the healing process. I say ‘process’ because it’s on-going, and won’t be over for a long time. Part of healing, once the understanding phase has been seen through, is getting the garbage OUT! It’s such a psychologically damaging thing, hearing and witnessing all the psycho-babble from such a twisted mind, that those words, scenarios and thoughts become our own for a time. You must drown them out with positive ANYTHING…stop the garbage thoughts that aren’t yours to begin with, and replace them…LOUDLY. Yelling STOP or CHANGE in our minds will shock-train our minds into being more of who we remember…before…

    I don’t see a ‘reblog’ option, but I would like to be able to do this. I believe it will be helpful for the followers of my blog, too. I did ‘ping’ this entry on one of my blog entries, recently. Quite comical that you refer to the ‘monkey’… That was my first thought in describing my x in ‘monkey see monkey do’ (http://lifebegins45.wordpress.com/2012/03/31/monkey-see-monkey-do/). Definitely fits

    Thank you for this reminder

    • I’m so glad you found this helpful and am happy you reblogged it. Thanks for the very thoughtful response and sharing your thoughts and experiences.

      Wendy

  3. This is very true. I have learned much the same thing in my life, over the years. I look at the human mind as a muscle…it can be trained and retrained, thank god! lol! When going through a traumatic event (like myself, having dealt directly with a psychopath), Ruminating over the past can become habitual, in a sense. In my case, understanding the beast was paramount in being able to begin the healing process. I say ‘process’ because it’s on-going, and won’t be over for a long time. Part of healing, once the understanding phase has been seen through, is getting the garbage OUT! It’s such a psychologically damaging thing, hearing and witnessing all the psycho-babble from such a twisted mind, that those words, scenarios and thoughts become our own for a time. You must drown them out with positive ANYTHING…stop the garbage thoughts that aren’t yours to begin with, and replace them…LOUDLY. Yelling STOP or CHANGE in our minds will shock-train our minds into being more of who we remember…before…

    I don’t see a ‘reblog’ option, but I would like to be able to do this. I believe it will be helpful for the followers of my blog, too. I did ‘ping’ this entry on one of my blog entries, recently. Quite comical that you refer to the ‘monkey’… That was my first thought in describing my x in ‘monkey see monkey do’ (http://lifebegins45.wordpress.com/2012/03/31/monkey-see-monkey-do/). Definitely fits 🙂

    Thank you for this reminder 🙂

    • Hello there LifeBegins45,

      Wow you have an intriguing story to tell. Thanks for sharing your insights and thoughts. I don’t know about the reblog option; I will look into this. Thanks for sharing out my posts with others, it’s much appreciated.

      Sorry for the delay in responding as I’ve been out of town and away from the computer. Keep up the good work you are doing,

      ~Wendy

  4. Another trick for distracting the monkey is to wear a thin rubber band on your wrist and when you find yourself getting stuck in a thought loop – say, when you’re anxious and you keep ruminating on negative thoughts – gently snap the rubber band onto your wrist to remind your brain you need to think about something else. It works.

  5. When I have monkey mind it is usually a betrayal or injustice, I find journalling about it or a letter I do not mail to the person can help me let it go, I think the voice wants to be heard. Thanks

    • Hi Al, that’s a good way to process and release a strong emotion or thought. Journaling/writing it out is a good release, as is verbally saying it out loud without censorship if you are in complete privacy. I found usually when I’m talking with people, the monkey mind is mostly about near-useless thoughts that detract from the present moment, like ‘what am I going to make for dinner’, ‘I wonder when I’ll get that phonecall’, etc. Thank you for sparking this clarification, Al, because the monkey mind can be small thoughts or bigger thoughts. Much appreciated.

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