Which camp are you in? Camp 1: “I love Christmas!”, or Camp 2: “Bah, Humbug!”.
If you are in Camp 2, why is that? It’s actually interesting to have a look at yourself to see why you don’t like Christmas (Hanukkah, holiday season, or whatever you recognize). As you may know, ‘Bah, Humbug’ comes from the classic story ‘A Christmas Carol’, where Ebenezer Scrooge declares that Christmas is a fraud and nonsense, but is shown how he is negatively impacting people’s lives and will die alone and miserable unless he changes his ways. Check out a well done Charles Dickens’ website about A Christmas Carol.
There are many reasons people don’t like Christmas – the stress of shopping, a reminder that a loved one is no longer with us, feeling too alone at this time of year, it brings up unpleasant memories, the list goes on…
So how might you squash the Bah, Humbug? Maybe you don’t want to squash it; maybe you like to feel crabby and want to tell people how much you hate Christmas. If so, this is your choice. But I decided that I didn’t enjoy being stressed out at Christmas, so I adopted a changed perspective – I choose to celebrate life, take time to reflect on what I’m grateful for, and I consciously choose not to bring in any self-inflicted stress.
- Enjoy what is lovely about this season – the lights, the Christmas songs on the radio, the rise in energy of the city.
- Christmas shopping – if you’re going to do it, don’t put any pressure on yourself to get the ‘perfect gifts’. Buy things that are generally liked, or ensure it is returnable!
- If you are sad because this season reminds you of missing someone special, allow yourself to have a time of sadness. Don’t suppress it. Go ahead, feel it, emote it and cry if you want to. Then afterwards, recognize that you are OK, and that you have honoured and remembered that person. Send their spirit love.
- If others are putting pressure on you, like “you have to come here for Christmas”, make the decision that is in your highest good, and if you do not want to go, respectfully and lovingly decline.
- If you have time off work, do something that brings you joy that you don’t normally get to do. Cook, bake (my next post will give you a yummy recipe for home-made almond roca!), go for walks, visit people, visit Christmas markets or just curl up with a good book.
- Don’t get all worked up about ‘the meaning of Christmas has been lost and it’s all about materialism’. Even though I agree with this view, I choose my experiences and thoughts, and don’t let this bother me.
If you have ways that have allowed you to swing over to the positive side of the Christmas season, I’d love to hear about them.
Happy Holidays to you.