As this is a very big and meaningful topic, I will break this down into a 5 part series, and I invite you to join in on this conversation by adding your comments.
- Part 1 – Initiating the subject with your partner (this post)
- Part 2 – When your partner joins you
- Part 3 – When your partner is indifferent
- Part 4 – When you partner rejects it
- Part 5 – When you don’t have a partner
Spiritual growth is such a deeply personal decision and experience. Every person walks a unique path. I imagine that most of you who read my blog are in some way already on your spiritual path. You might be well on your way, or you might just be peeking through a door at the path that intrigues you, or you are not yet sure what it is or what to do about it.
In one of my past serious relationships, I felt a deep but suppressed interest in spirituality, and I didn’t even really know what to call it at the time. I wanted to discuss my curiosity with my partner but based on what I knew about him, I suspected that he would just raise an eyebrow and wonder if I was running a high fever.
In my current relationship, my partner started out years ago rather indifferent and skeptical, but going through my cancer journey last year really opened his eyes to the possibility and benefits of joining me on my spiritual journey.
Personally, I feel that if your partner intentionally decides to grow with you spiritually, it enriches and accelerates your growth, and deepens your relationship. After all, partnerships do need long term visions in order to sustain and be fulfilling.
How did I broach the subject in my serious relationships? Here are some ways I did:
- I started off with a discussion on whether or not we each believed in reincarnation. Whether you believe in reincarnation or not isn’t the point here, I’m just pointing out this is how I started opened up a spiritual-type conversation.
- When we experienced a death of a friend or loved one, or heard that someone was very ill, we would remember how short life really is. This was a window of opportunity to talk about what we thought our life’s purpose might be.
So have you truly talked specifically to your partner about exploring your spiritual growth together, or have you just talked about various topics here and there, but not made the big jump in raising the question of deciding to journey together?
- Have you talked about what it means to grow spiritually together?
- What life means to you?
- Living life with self-awareness, intention and meaning?
- What it means to your relationship to journey together or separately?
I invite you to share how you have broached this subject with your partner, or how you have not as yet (current or past partners). As this can be a very tricky subject, I would love to hear about your experiences, or you can describe the challenges you are currently having.
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